I was chatting with friends recently about PDA (Physical Displays of Affection) and how it varies across cultures. It reminded us of several other fun little examples of the ways culture shows up in everyday interactions.
Talking about these differences draws attention to the assumptions we make about our own culture and what we think is “normal.” You can try these with a student or even with your friends; culture is learned at many levels, including in our families.
- What are your culture’s “rules” around public displays of affection for families? Friends? Romantic partners?
- What are your expectations when giving and receiving gifts? For example, which gifts are auspicious and which are unlucky? When and how are they exchanged? When are they opened? How do you give thanks?
- What are some common practices around how food and drinks are eaten and served? For example, are meals are served buffet-style or plated, what utensils are used, who serves whom, what happens when the plate or cup is empty, how do you give a toast?
- How do people behave when waiting or lining up: on the street/platform for a bus, train, subway; at a post office; for a meeting to start, etc.?
- Tell me about law enforcement in your town/city. How are police dressed? What is their purpose? Do you trust them? How do they interact with everyday people?
- What is the polite thing to do if someone you know has a crumb on their chin, or a tissue stuck to their shoe?
- Who are the most respected individuals in your community? To whom do you show the most respect in your family? How do you show respect? How are elders treated in your culture? Are there differences between what men and women can/should do?
- What are some common hand gestures and what do they mean? What are some things you might do with your hands, feet, face, etc. that would be considered rude?
- What’s more important: having your opinions and preferences heard, or going along with the group? Being competitive and assertive, or cooperative and harmonious?
- In your culture, do people regularly seek to have fun, or is activity for the sake of personal pleasure considered indulgent or selfish?
And a bonus question—one of my favourites: What is considered “on time” in your culture, and what happens if you are “late”?
What are cultural differences you’ve noticed in your homes or workplaces, and how do you talk about them?